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30 Things to STOP doing to yourself..

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new

beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing

could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of

transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding

you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is

too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. 

If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you.  You

shouldn’t have to fight for a spot.  Never, ever insist yourself to

someone who continuously overlooks your worth.  And remember, it’s not

the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the

ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true

friends.

Stop running from your problems. – Face them head

on.  No, it won’t be easy.  There is no person in the world capable of

flawlessly handling every punch thrown at them.  We aren’t supposed to

be able to instantly solve problems.  That’s not how we’re made.  In

fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble and fall.  Because

that’s the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn, adapt, and

solve them over the course of time.  This is what ultimately molds us

into the person we become.

Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone

else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself.  Our lives improve

only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we

can take is to be honest with ourselves.  Read The Road Less Traveled.


Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.

The most painful thing is losing yourself in the process of loving

someone too much, and forgetting that you are special too.  Yes, help

others; but help yourself too.  If there was ever a moment to follow

your passion and do something that matters to you, that moment is now.

Stop trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like

everyone else.  Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be

smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. 

Don’t change so people will like you.  Be yourself and the right people

will love the real you.

Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing

something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive

than doing nothing.  Every success has a trail of failures behind it,

and every failure is leading towards success.  You end up regretting the

things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may

love the wrong person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how

things go wrong, one thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person

and things that are right for us.  We all make mistakes, have

struggles, and even regret things in our past.  But you are not your

mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the

power to shape your day and your future.  Every single thing that has

ever happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to

come.

Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things

we desire are expensive.  But the truth is, the things that really

satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter and working on our

passions.

Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.

If you’re not happy with who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy

in a long-term relationship with anyone else either.  You have to create

stability in your own life first before you can share it with someone

else.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.


Stop being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll

create a problem that wasn’t even there in the first place.  Evaluate

situations and take decisive action.  You cannot change what you refuse

to confront.  Making progress involves risk.  Period!  You can’t make it

to second base with your foot on first.

Stop thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels

100% ready when an opportunity arises.  Because most great

opportunities in life force us to grow beyond our comfort zones, which

means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.

Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be chosen wisely.  It’s better to be alone than to

be in bad company.  There’s no need to rush.  If something is meant to

be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for

the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.

Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you

meet.  Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. 

But most importantly, some will bring out the best in you.

Stop trying to compete against everyone else.

Don’t worry about what others are doing better than you.  Concentrate on

beating your own records every day.  Success is a battle between YOU

and YOURSELF only.

Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art

of counting someone else’s blessings instead of your own.  Ask yourself

this:  “What’s something I have that everyone wants?”

Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.

Life’s curveballs are thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a

direction that is meant for you.  You may not see or understand

everything the moment it happens, and it may be tough.  But reflect back

on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.  You’ll often

see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state of

mind, or situation.  So smile!  Let everyone know that today you are a

lot stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

Stop holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with

hate in your heart.  You will end up hurting yourself more than the

people you hate.  Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is

okay.”  It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my

happiness forever.”  Forgiveness is the answer… let go, find peace,

liberate yourself!  And remember, forgiveness is not just for other

people, it’s for you too.  If you must, forgive yourself, move on and

try to do better next time.

Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it and your enemies won’t believe it anyway.  Just do what you know in your heart is right.

Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep breath is when you don’t have time for it. 

If you keep doing what you’re doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re

getting.  Sometimes you need to distance yourself to see things clearly.

Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.

Enjoy the little things, because one day you may look back and discover

they were the big things.  The best portion of your life will be the

small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to

you.

Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.  Read Getting Things Done.

Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life

is not easy, especially when you plan on achieving something

worthwhile.  Don’t take the easy way out.  Do something extraordinary.

Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.

It’s okay to fall apart for a little while.  You don’t always have to

pretend to be strong, and there is no need to constantly prove that

everything is going well.  You shouldn’t be concerned with what other

people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it’s healthy to shed

your tears.  The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to smile

again.

Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent

to which you can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you

take responsibility for your life.  When you blame others for what

you’re going through, you deny responsibility – you give others power

over that part of your life.

Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing

so is impossible, and trying will only burn you out.  But making one

person smile CAN change the world.  Maybe not the whole world, but their

world.  So narrow your focus.

Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip

tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip today of its joy.  One way to

check if something is worth mulling over is to ask yourself this

question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?  Three years?  Five

years?”  If not, then it’s not worth worrying about.

Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.

Focus on what you do want to happen.  Positive thinking is at the

forefront of every great success story.  If you awake every morning with

the thought that something wonderful will happen in your life today,

and you pay close attention, you’ll often find that you’re right.

Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad

you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere

else is desperately fighting for theirs.  Instead of thinking about

what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else

is missing.

post written by: Marc Chernoff
http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/